Be sure to add $$myusername$$@$$mydomain$$ to your address book or safe sender list. (Enable Images to Fully Enjoy) Do not fail! Read SmallBusinessNewz.
Newsletter Archive | Article Archive | Submit Article | Advertising Information | About Us | Contact

Become a Partner!

Visit the SmallbBusinessNewz Directory
Do you have a business site?
Submit your business related site FREE!
Book Keeping, Training...

PPC, Print, Banner...

Brick and Mortar
Stores, Offices...
Carts, Web Design...

Schools, Classes...

Taxes, Payroll...
» Submit your site «

Get listed for free in the unofficial Twitter Directory!

Arik Hanson

Do You Really Need To Kiss Up To Clients?

Thursday, March 13, 2014

A big part of being on the agency or consultant side of our business is relationship-building and management. No question.

In essence, your job is to build repoire and trust with the client. You want them to see you as a partner–a key member of the team.

But, in some instances, this “relationship building” can cross-over into “kissing up” territory pretty quickly.

What am I talking about?

Oh, don’t pretend you’re not guilty.

What about that time you told the client “great work” even though it clearly wasn’t their best effort?

Or, what about that time you elbowed your way through the group so you could sit directly beside the client–then proceeded to laugh at every one of her jokes (and some of them weren’t funny–face it)?

Or, what about that over-the-top positive email you sent to the client after what was obviously a fairly painful brainstorming meeting?

I think most of us have been guilty at one point or another in our professional lives. I know I have. But, do we really need to go down this road?

Does relationship-building really equate to kissing up in our line of work?

Having been at this for almost 20 years now, I’d say no. Here’s my thinking:

Relationship building and management is definitely part of the job–but that should always translate into trust, not flattery.

Some of the best “relationship building” you can do has nothing to do with the relationship itself (at least in the way you’re probably thinking about it)–it has to do with your work.

Do great work and deliver on time, and your client will love you.

Make your client look great in front of her boss, and your client will love you.

Win awards for your client and her organization, and the client will love you.

This is how professional relationships are built–on the foundation of hard work and results.

Now, is there a little relationship management built into that? Absolutely. But, I would argue it doesn’t have to translate into smooching the buns of your client.

It’s a fine line between kissing up and relationship building, but here’s how I look at it, and I’ll give you a few examples of how that translates for me, personally.

Relationships are a two-way street, right? So, as much as you want to get to know your client, shouldn’t your client want to get to know you, too? You’re more likely spending more time with this person than you are with your family! Make it count!

In any relationship, you’re looking to build trust based on genuine concern, empathy and interest. So, look for opportunities to show concern, lend and ear, or ask about a hobby or interest outside of work.

Here are a few ways this comes to life for me.

Whenever I talk on the phone or in person with a client, I try to ask about a few personal things right off the bat. How was your vacation? How are the kids? How is Scotty’s soccer coming along? These kinds of things. Why is this important. Because these are the things EVERYONE wants to talk about. You ask me about my kids–I’ll go on a 15-minute birddog talking about my son’s basketball game or my daughter’s American Girl doll fixation. People love to talk about themselves–all you usually have to do is give them the opportunity to do it, and show genuine interest. Not too tough. This is definitely not kissing up.

Read The Full Article

» Comment on this article

About the Author:
Arik Hanson, is the principal of ACH Communications, a digital communications consultancy focused on fostering meaningful online interactions, driving digital relevance and building measurable growth through social channels. Arik's blog, Communications Conversations (, has received numerous industry accolades including being named "Required Reading" by PRWeek and one of "The Top 25 Blogs to Follow" by PRWeb. He's also a regular contributor to the PR Breakfast Club,, PR Daily and MinnPost.
Newsletter Archive | Article Archive | Submit Article | Advertising Information | About Us | Contact
Small Business Newz is an iEntry, Inc. ® publication - 1998-2014 All Rights Reserved Privacy Policy and Legal

All Rights Reserved. Terms under which this service is provided to you. Read our privacy policy. Contact us.